Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
It’s time to come clean. I’m a closet Dr. Laura fan. If you stop and listen closely to what she has to say, she’s pretty spot on. Recently I picked up a copy of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and I’m blown away, ok absolutely blown away describes it better.
Before we go any further, I want to state that we are not having marital issues (OK Mother-In-Law, Mom and Friends), I just want to be a better wife. I know I’m not living up to my potential and change begins with me. 
CAN ANYONE SAY CONVICTION? I’ve always known that I take advantage of my dear husband, but I had no idea how detrimental my actions were to his wholeness. As you can see my husband has a very soft side. Is he perfect no, but neither am I (honey don’t use this against me later). So what can I do to make our marriage better?
As an introvert I tend to be pretty self absorbed in my own little world. I internalize, analyze and compartmentalize many of my feelings and life happenings on a daily basis. With this internalization, I tend be stressed and unapproachable…not to mention snippy with those closest to me. So little by little, I am working on being a little nicer to those around me, especially my husband, stepping out of my comfort zone a little more and trying to let things roll of my back (which in all honesty can be easier said than done).
If you haven’t read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, I highly encourage it. I am going to post the description and one review from Amazon about the book. Now when I read the review from Publishers Weekly, part of the review resonated with me…”While many of her listeners and readers claim her unequivocal advice has salvaged teetering marriages and improved marital harmony, others perceive Schlessinger as a throwback to what many see as years of female oppression in the home.” The advice in this book does appear to take the women’s movement back a few years, but in the end with the few changes I’ve already started implementing, I can see a world of difference.
Book Description:
Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the values, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America, often creating struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.
Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura shows you—with real-life examples and real-life solutions—how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life.
Dr. Laura’s simple principles have already salvaged and revitalized innumerable strained, stagnant, even seemingly dead marriages and have changed the lives of millions. Now they can revitalize yours!
Book Review:
From Publishers Weekly
In her newest book, Schlessinger (10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives) relies upon her experience in private practice, radio and letters she received from men and women in tackling the issue of women who mistreat their men and suffer the consequences of unhappiness. The women who criticize their husbands in the stories that Schlessinger relates are depressed in their marriages and feel little love from their husbands. Unabashedly asserting that man is a “very simple creature,” who needs only “direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good loving’” to respond with devotion, compassion and love, this controversial marriage and family therapist claims that every woman can achieve a deeply satisfying marriage if she adheres to certain fundamentals men require. Preparing dinner, caring for the children without complaint, greeting her husband with a kiss and engaging in sexual intimacy instead of “tearing down a husband’s necessary sense of strength and importance” can result in the harmonious marriage women crave. While many of her listeners and readers claim her unequivocal advice has salvaged teetering marriages and improved marital harmony, others perceive Schlessinger as a throwback to what many see as years of female oppression in the home.
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Big Thank You!
I’ll add this to the read pile.. sometime… you know… like closer to the time you allow me to DATE!!!!!