Introverted and Loving It!living in an extrovert world

If you are an avid reader of a blog or your just surfing through, if you don’t like something it’s ok to click away. It really is.

Yesterday I was reading one of my favorite business blogs and one of the commenters totally slammed the site owner. The commenter stated that they were upset over the reviews and number of posts about a certain website browser. Said commenter felt as though they were in the hip pocket of the browser developers and that they wrote about the browser too much. They wanted less posts about the browser each week and perhaps just a weekly roundup if they felt the need to talk about the browser.

My advice…click away. If you don’t like a certain subject or post, then click away. It’s easy, it’s simple and it’s quick. Secondly it wouldn’t matter one way or another if this particular blogger was in the hip pocket of the developers of said website browser. Chances are, no I know that the blogger in question is a business owner and makes their living from their blog. So if said developer was paying for reviews, then so be it. You don’t have to like it. You can click away. I click away all the time…again it’s easy, it’s simple and it’s quick.

PS - If by any chance Purina (the makers of Purina Cat Chow Indoor Formula) is reading this blog, I will certianly shout your company name and glory from the rooftops in rural Upper Dauphin, PA if you would throw the darling Fifi some kibble.

It just occurred to me that I may have been living under a rock for 30+ years. It wouldn’t surprise me in the least. In fact it’s probably pretty darn comfortable under the proverbial rock. For some reason I just learned that I am a self-absorbed person. Sounds wretched doesn’t it? There are times that I can be totally oblivious to things around me such as what others are doing, what others are thinking and feeling, the list can go on.

Today I am on a mission to figure out if being self absorbed is a good or bad thing.

It’s good to connect and really know yourself. However, if one is too absorbed in themselves that they miss key issues and feelings of those around them, then it can definitely be a very bad thing. If your spouse, children or other family members continuously take a back seat to your “me, myself and I”, you are truly setting yourself up for disaster.

OK, I’ll admit it. My name is Becki and I’m self absorbed.

I am going to do my best to take in things around me and just “check in” with myself. By checking in, I’m going to be sure that I am still being taken care of, but I will also place more effort on seeing things around me.

I'm Baaaccccckkkk!

It’s been a very long time since I blogged here, but hopefully that will change. It’s not that I haven’t thought about it, I did, I really did. My frustration came down to the simple URL. This blog is www.introverts.net and I am one, but I just didn’t want to blog about introverts all the time. Catch my drift? I wanted something (a URL) that wasn’t so singularly focused. After thinking about it for a long time…almost a year, I came to a conclusion that I will talk about what I want, when I want to talk about it. I am not going to be held back by a word in a domain name.

Also I want to give a shout-out to Sally of Sally Around the Bay. Hey Sally! She told me that she misses this blog and always looked forward to what I had to say. Sally might have been being nice, but hey it made an impression!

I am still MAC-less, but do have a new HP Pavilion that is pretty good. Yes, no comparison to a MAC, I know. However I did find this cool widget thingy called ObjectDock which does give your PC a feel of a MAC albeit only somewhat. So for now I am happy in knowing that my world did not come to an end because I wasn’t using a MAC on a daily basis.

I still over-think things, wonder if anyone is reading what I write here, etc. But I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t really care. Blogging is cheaper than therapy. Let’s say it together…”BLOGGING IS CHEAPER THAN THERAPY!”

Have an awesome day!

Independence Day came and went with no sign of my precious IMac. But life is good and will continue to go on despite this incessant need for a new toy.

All in all it was a quiet weekend. Our plans to go to Baltimore were shot because of a family emergency, so I didn’t get to meet Yamisi. However we did get to see the movie Wall-E, it wasn’t my favorite movie, but it was cute and it did make me want to recycle. We even got some pool time this past weekend which was great. It did rain, but heck we were wet anyway right?

I’m taking a short break today on my quest for an IMac…it’s almost Independence Day…I wonder if my honey will fall for it?

Today I’m a guest blogger over at Desperately Seeking Sanity and I talked a bit about our upcoming trip to see NKOTB…yes gag me.

I wonder if someone will trade me tickets for the sold out show for an IMac…now there’s a thought!

I love Twitter. I’m no longer in “like” it’s full blown love. Where else can you chat with a neighbor across the street and then with an exec that you wouldn’t have access to under normal circumstances? Heck, with Twitter, the possibilities are endless.

Today on Twitter John Reese said that (for him) using a Mac makes him more productive, things take less time, Macs are easier to use and he gets more work done.

I may be grasping at straws here, but honey, I think these are signs from the great beyond. I mean how can John Reese and others really be wrong? Why I’m More Productive On A Mac, Why Choose Mac for Productivity, How To Instantly Increase Your Productivity on Your Mac Pt. 1, How To Instantly Increase Your Productivity on Your Mac Pt.2…I could go on but the Internet was used again to my favor and I was able to find the “truths” that promote my point of view.

It’s past Christmas, Valentine’s Day, my birthday, Easter and Memorial Day. But July 4th is just around the corner and I can’t think of a better way for me to celebrate my independence from Bill than on THE Independence Day! I mean really…how fitting would that be?

Dear Bill,

It’s not you it’s me.

OK, I won’t beat around the bush any longer it really is you.

You have so many women pining after you, so I’m sure that you’ll be fine. But I really need a break. It’s just not working anymore, plain and simple. Maybe we can be friends again, the choice is yours and yours alone. However in true woman fashion, I am going to request that you make major changes before we can consider a friendship of any kind. If I can be so forward, I think you need professional help. In this day in age, it’s not taboo anymore. Just ask. There are many good people out there who can help you work out your issues. I’m sure that you’re good deep, deep, deep down. You’re very surface though, everything looks good on the outside, but on the inside you are washed out and hollow.

Now back to the issues at hand.

You have hurt me in so many ways. The countless hours I’ve spent worrying about you because you broke my heart. Let me tell you what hurts Bill, there is no intimacy between us anymore. Do you know what it feels like for me when I touch all your hot buttons and it takes you forever to warm up? You’re more like a woman than you will ever know. Who are you to take that stereotype away from us?

Every time I turn around I’m afraid. I no longer feel secure with you. Maybe it’s your job or your power, but everyone is out to get you. Do you know how many times I’ve had to look over my shoulder in fright? Do you understand just how many times you have made me sick? The latest attack really beat me down Bill. It took days to recover. All that time lost. All the opportunities lost. You had the chance to make our relationship stronger, but you didn’t want to have anything to do with me. Bill, you’re only there for the happy times, when times get tough you turn a blind eye to the situation. I think what hurts me most is that you are so power and money hungry that you can’t see beyond your nose.

Another thing that bothers me is the fact that you’re everywhere I turn. I can’t go to the grocery store, my friends’ homes, even the local Wal-Mart without feeling your constant presence. It’s almost like you are stalking me. Like you’re lying in wait to see what my next move will be.

Like most couples, we’ve had our good times and our bad times. Remember when we played Monopoly and you kicked my butt from here to Sunday? Or the many times we’ve played hide and seek. And who can forget the time that we were apart for 2 weeks because you were so blue?
But alas this relationship has always been about you. You’re a control freak and will have nothing less. I’ve tried to prove my love over and over again and restore my love to no avail. I’m done and I can’t take it anymore.

I’ve met someone new Bill. Please release your hold on me so I can be happy again. This is my last plea to you.

Yours no more,

Becki

PS – Honey Mac is moving in, so make some room. Oh and he requires payment…he doesn’t come free you know.

COLUMBUS’ MOTHER:
“I don’t care what you’ve discovered,You still could have written!”

MICHELANGELO’S MOTHER:
“Can’t you paint on walls like other children?
Do you have any idea how hard it is to
Get that stuff off the ceiling?”

NAPOLEON’S MOTHER:
“All right, if you aren’t hiding your report card
Inside your jacket, take your hand out of
There and show me.”

ABRAHAM LINCOLN’S MOTHER:
“Again with the stovepipe hat?
Can’t you just
Wear a baseball cap like the other kids?”

MARY’S MOTHER:
“I’m not upset that your lamb followed you to school.
But, I would like to know how he got a
Better grade than you.”

GEORGE WASHINGTON’S MOTHER:
“The next time I catch you throwing money across
The Potomac, you can kiss your allowance good-bye!”

THOMAS EDISON’S MOTHER:
“Of course I’m proud that you invented the
Electric light bulb.
Now, turn it off and get to bed!”

PAUL REVERE’S MOTHER:
“I don’t care where you think you have to go,
Young man,
Midnight is past your curfew.”

ALBERT EINSTEIN’S MOTHER:
“But it’s your senior picture.
Can’t you do something about your hair?
OY!
Styling gel,
Mousse,
Something…?”

A BIG BIG BIG thank you goes out to Lisa B at Simply His Blogger. She read my post “Back Up Again” and said “are you sure you don’t want your posts back? I think I can get them.”

In my mind, I was thinking, “yeah right”. But this is Lisa, she’s the go to person for issues like this by many.

To be honest, I wanted to figure it out myself and I didn’t want to go to her with my tail between my legs and say, “hey, I did this again”. My webhost was contacted, I’m still waiting for an answer, but Lisa rescued me, so now I can care less if they respond.

I won’t get into the techno-mumble-jumble about the issue at hand, but suffice it to say that Lisa B came to rescue and got my posts back. I’m a little embarrassed…ok alot embarrassed that I haven’t blogged here in almost a year. I honestly don’t care if anyone reads my blog, comments are nice, but they’re not my driving force. Sometimes you just need a little therapy you know? And blogging is a heck of a lot cheaper.

If you’re in a technical quandary…give her a holler.

Earlier this week Heather and I hosted the first open house for the Virtual Assistant Revolution. During the call we both spoke about what we’re passionate about…Heather = new virtual assistants and me = introverts.

After I was finished giving an overview of my passion for introverts, I received several text messages stating that they (the participants) would not have known that I was an introvert because of the way I was speaking. This kind of surprised me…maybe because of the stereotypes. The school of thought is that because we’re introverts, we don’t like people, we’re not public speakers, etc. Truth be told, I love talking to people…on the phone or in the box (internet). I can speak in front of a group if I have a purpose. It’s draining mentally and physically, but I can do it and do it well.

I know several wonderful public speakers including motivational speakers who fall under the category “introvert”. The one thing that usually hold true across the board for introverts is the fact that we take the time to formulate our presentations and our answers in advance. We are very introspective.

If you’re an introvert and want (or need) to speak in public take some time for yourself, prepare, take a break before the event and be sure to leave yourself downtime after the event. You can do it.

-Becki